I found this on FB:
“Is it stupid when you like someone that cant be yours?” (YMTA, 2011)
Semantically, it is not a big deal at all since the person used the word ‘like’, and clearly, it is really2 not stupid and nothing has to be argued. So the answer is just ‘NO’.
But just to make the person feels that I understand what she was trying to convey, I personally switch the ‘like’ to ‘love’ and now it is debatable and becomes an issue. (How good I am)
I’m not planning to write a lot. So, we go straight to the point.
1. Human being is created with feelings and these feelings are unpredictable. Nothing can be made as a concrete-fact when it comes to the feelings matter. Feelings are abstract, something that cannot be touched, cannot be listened, cannot be felt, etc. That’s why whatever comes from our heart is considered as something raw. It depends on us on how to extend the feelings, maybe we want to ignore it, and maybe we want to bring it to the real life. If the feeling is good, it is good for us to extend it to the next level. But if it is not, we must ignore it. For example, if we feel that we want to kick a cat after it bites us, it is not wrong at all. But if we really kick the cat after we felt want to, it is wrong! (That’s why we are not given ‘sin’ when we plan to do a sin. We will be considered as sinner after we really do the sin)
2. It is not stupid to love someone that can’t be yours because of several things, we call it as dream and expectation. When we found someone who we love, that means we are setting a dream. Of course when we love someone, he/she must have the best criteria that we are looking for. Eventhough we can’t get the person, it’s ok because at least we are now clear about how our upcoming partner should look like. Expectation, of course we will have an expectation about out partner. So eventhough the person can’t be ours, at least we are setting several expectations for our future partner. It is all about today’s failure-like benefits our future decisions. So, ‘yes’ we will feel upset for not getting the person now, but it is not stupid. It is clever to prepare for the future, and set some sort of benchmark to face the future.
3. Love is blind. You can be blind, I can be blind, people around you can be blind, and be blinded by love. So it is not stupid to love people that can’t be yours, we are just being blinded. Blind is not stupid. We just can’t see (yet hopefully).
Ok that’s all.